What flow, confidence and alphaness comes from(ijjjji).

Subject: What flow, confidence and alphaness comes from.

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1: I see a girl. I like her. I walk over and say hi.
2: I see a girl. I like her. ..Pause to think:.. I want her.... IF I walk over and say hi, it might go well.. but it might also go bad and ruin ALL FUTURE CHANCES with her.. How to make sure it goes well? Maybe stand near her a while? Maybe.. etc etc*

Look at the first line. What the fuck happened between the liking and the walking over?? Can someone do something without first deciding to do it?? Certainly not!! So.. only one possibility. The decition MUST have been taken AT AN EARLIER STAGE.

I was PREDETERMINED to go talk to cute girls. Without any predetermination, the 'Pause to think' will always FORCE ITSELF in like in line 2..

3: I pluck weed in my garden. I water the flowers.
4: I pluck weed. I pluck some more weed. I pluck even more weed.
5: I pluck some weed. *Pause to think*.. I water the flowers.

Look at 3. Obviously, I have decided to water the flowers while still plucking weed (or earlier). When the plucking is done, I can go directly into the watering. Same goes for line 4. I was obviously predetermined to pluck a lot of weed, so no need to think about it between pluckings. This is FLOW. FLOW = Doing something while DETERMINED what to do next. In 5, the flow ends with the plucking, since obviously not determined what to do next.

6: I see an old friend. I smile and say hi.
7: I see a really cute girl that I talked briefly to once before. I smile and say hi AS IF she was an old friend. (Hopefully she cant see I hesitated for a millisecond)

Line 6 is a HABIT. Habit is a strong and deeply rooted predetermination. In line 7, I'm not predetermined, but the 'pause and think' is very short, since I find a predetermination I can step into.

TERMINOLOGY RELATIONS:

Flow = Momentum = Doing something while DETERMINED what to do next.

Confidence = Current level of relaxedness, trusting your predetermined actions/reactions will handle everything well.
Focus and Small AR: ways of emulating/stepping into this relaxedness.
Alphaness: a predetermination never to step out of relaxedness/confidence + always act/react with predetermination.

Sidenote - since alpha means acting with immediate predetermination in many situations, alpha guys sometimes do fairly erratic stuff. Try asking an alpha a difficult question. He will typically do one of 3 things:
-ignore or stare through you.
-tickle or hit you playfully.
-say some retarded gibberish and laugh.
This illustrates how strongly the dominant role is founded on acting as if predetermined. However, a silent pause taken to become determined, is perfectly fine, as long as your relaxedness is unshaken.

Sidenote - most people have no direction/drive in their life, resulting in much stress, hesitation and boredom. For this reason they LOVE being around people who seem to know WHAT TO DO RIGHT NOW AND WHAT TO DO NEXT.

Conclusion:
-Make a few determinations about what to do, BEFORE you go to get something done. Then relax, knowing you are well prepared.
-Arrange your tasks in stacks and process them accordingly.
-A determined action will impress girls, even when wrong or bizarre. Hesitation never will.

Comments are extremely welcome.

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Subject: Momentum - the real thing

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Doubtful-ijjjji: You say confidence is not a thing, but it sure feelslike a thing. Like sometimes, I feel I got it inside me, and sometimes I don't have it inside me at all. How do you explain this if its no a thing??

Doubtful-ijjjji: And you say its not something you need to build, yet there are things I can do that make me get it more and more inside me.. like moving around.. or putting on strong BL.. or doing a few 'warm up' approaches.. or even just having a very active day before I go sarging.. these build it inside me but you say its not something you can build. Surely you must be mistaken, no?

ijjjji:

What you talk of is MOMENTUM.

This is real. The good feeling it creates, is the same that the 'bullshit confidence model' aim for. But it makes 3 wrong assumptions about it:

1. That its part of you, like a personality trait.
2. That it comes from inside you.. your thoughts, feelings, past experiences etc.
3. That you can hold onto it, preserve it, keep it strong inside you.

I'll explain each:

1. That its part of you, like a personality trait.

If this was true, why is it so strong one day and totally gone the next, or maybe even minutes after? No - its not a part of you at all. Its only part of the SITUATION you have put yourself in.

(The STUPID idea that its part of you, can lead to thinking you are a wimp or a loser or that something is wrong with you, on days when its not there.. this is the most HARMFUL effect of the 'bullshit confidence idea'.)

2. That it comes from inside you.. your thoughts, feelings, past experiences etc.

If this was true, why is it so difficult (impossible?) to sit still and summon it mentally? Why can you only change it by doing stuff (changing your situation)? No - its not starting inside you and flowing towards the outside. It starts in the situation you are in, and flows into you.

3. That you can hold onto it, preserve it, keep it strong inside you.

Again, why does it come and go so suddenly if this was possible? No - you can not preserve it. Whenever you enter situations that don't create it, it will be gone. And when you enter situations that create it, it will be back.

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I say above that it comes from the situation.. but its important to realize that YOU decide what situations you seek out or create! You still control it 100%! And its not complicated - all you got to do is seek situations with lots of action in them, OR seek a more ACTIVE ROLE in your current situation.

Examples:
-Sitting still in the office or in class room, trying to solve problems theoretically for 3 hours.. removes all momentum.
-Washing the dishes then tidying the living room and cleaning the floor.. creates lots of momentum.
-Sitting still in a pub looking at girls.. removes all momentum.
-Talking to friends or colleagues or strangers.. creates a lot of 'social' momentum.
-Sitting still reading.. removes momentum.
-Moving around.. creates momentum and is a great first step.
-Deep thinking.. removes momentum.
-Putting on a more relaxed, or more masculine, or more sexual BL.. creates momentum.
-Doing stuff in general.. creates momentum - not doing stuff takes it away.

OK LETS GET PRACTICAL!!!

You are about to talk to a chick, but that fucker MR.CAREFUL wants to think about it first. Before, you would think stuff like:
-Oh no I lost my confidence!
-Oh no its an OFF night!
-GOD I HATE THIS - I'M SUCH A FUCKING LOSER! WHY IN HELL DIDN'T I APPROACH!? SHE EVEN SMILED AT ME!!

From now on you will think:
-Hehe oops I forgot to warm up. Better keep moving and do some short throw-away-warm-up-sets over there and maybe return later!

(Credit to Mystery, who first described this and named it 'momentum'. He also invented warm up sets, where you quickly open a few girls with no intention of gaming them.)

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